I am not a life coach, neither I am here to tell you what to do. Rather, I want to share some tips that I use to grow in confidence when at times I feel at the very bottom.
Yes! It does happen to everyone, even to the most charismatic person to feel low in self-esteem. From the books I have read, mainly motivational, self-confidence and biographies of successful and influential personalities, they all seem to swear by “confidence” being the key to your personal happiness and success.
I apply them myself and I am quite very happy of the outcome. Question that I am most frequently asked is “ How is it possible that you are always smiling and happy? ”
It was not always the case, but then I let these few steps into my everyday life until they become part of me and I am a totally fulfilled person now.
Stop the blab la and lets get into it.
You do not have to be slender, fit and toned, to have the best hair or to be considered “pretty” to be confident. You do not have to be accepted by everyone either.
Being Confident starts with YOU !
- STOP COMPARING
I know ! I know ! Easier said than done. But try to realize that you are YOU, and no one else. You cannot be that other person, so why not try to be the best version of yourself? You only have to be good enough for yourself after all.
- THINK POSITIVELY
Anything you visualize or expect to happen has a chance of happening (The Secret by ) So now if you thinking about negative things – “I am not good at anything” or “I am too fat”- this is how you will display yourself to the world. Change that by taking out negative words and changing your attitude towards things.
- ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES
They happen! Learn from them.
- DON’T LET ANYONE DEFINE YOU
At one point, you have to let people realize you are who you are – Take it or walk away ! Do not even try to fit in a world someone creates for you.
- SET PERSONAL GOALS
Personally setting myself tons of goals keep me going and I feel amazing once I have accomplished them. Give it a try.
- SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF
Take time off to think about yourself for a while. Do not over think about your To Do List. Think about what you enjoy doing and forget the rest.
- DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE
And to it constantly! Whether its gardening, painting, photography, do what you love and what makes you happy. For me its DIY – every time I finish a DIY, I look for something else to do. It gives me so much satisfaction and serenity.
Here are a few DIY I started.
Well, i am still on my seashell mirror. Half way done because it is a lot of work as you can see. Once over its gonna be amazing.
The Macrame design i did it in 3 weeks whereas the towel hanger and the star photo-frame in a day.
- BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF ALWAYS
Accept yourself as you are and take judgment lightly. Do not beat yourself up for anything and remember to take life day-by-day. Do not pick at yourself and add to your insecurities. You are just FINE as you are. Remember this “YOU HAVE THE SAME AMOUNT OF HOURS IN A DAY AS BEYONCE” !
What is your excuse now? Be bold, be you and Slay in your own way.
xx Katia xx
If you have other tips you are aware of, please feel free to share in the comment box below.